5 steps to build a healthy relationship with your kids
Building healthy relationships with your kids is important but how much time do you need to spend together to build these strong connections?
Building healthy relationships is something that families can help to foster from an early age, and in doing so, help children to learn valuable skills that support their emotional, social and academic development.
Kids don’t care about elaborate events and fancy presents. To help build healthy relationships with your kids, quite often one of the most important things is just spending time together.
The important thing to remember is that you don’t need to spend every moment together to build healthy relationships with your kids. Parents are often left guilt-ridden and stressed thinking they need to cut everything to spend more time with the kids. And while it’s fantastic spending that time as a family, it doesn’t need to be done in big chunks. A simple 10 minutes here and there can still help you build a solid connection with your kids and benefit everyone in your family.
Try these ‘quick five’ tips to help you building healthy relationships with your kids:
1. Get down on their level
2. Reflect what they’re feeling
3. Consistent boundaries
4. ‘Top three’
Everyone in the family briefly lists their three most memorable moments of the day and they share them with one another. It can be a quick and simple way to connect with one another, share the moment, express feelings and practise good communication, resilience and problem solving. A brief ‘top three’ can help kids develop that sense of trust through that shared conversation and will hopefully they’ll be more willing to come to you if any issues arise.
5. Be in the moment
It can be that simple. You don’t need elaborate family time itineraries, or a whole day set aside, just being in the moment, and giving that moment your attention. It could be eating a meal with your kids, or playing in the backyard; or even those spontaneous chats that arise as you’re putting the washing away. It’s the small things that make memorable moments.
These are things you probably do each and every day without even realising. And that’s the amazing part of family time - we can create strong memories and help tackle the tough moments just through quick, simple interactions.