What kind of parent will you be?
When you become a parent, will you follow in your parents’ footsteps or choose to do the complete opposite?
Some of the lessons we learn about being parents can come through our experiences of being parented. In fact, according to the Raising Children Network, young adults often end up with a similar set of values, beliefs and behaviours to their parents, even if they appeared to think quite differently as teenagers.
Even though we might like to think that our parenting style is based on conscious decisions to do things in a particular way, much of it may be unconsciously based on what we’ve learned from our parents.
Culture and society
The way you parent can also be directly or indirectly affected by societal and cultural practises. Some cultures, for example, may consider independence and freedom of choice important in parenting, while others may place more emphasis on obedience and behaviour control.
Trusted friends and colleagues may also have an impact on the way that you parent, whether they provide specific recommendations, suggestions and advice, or whether they are role models for particular behaviours that you choose to follow.
Your child’s personality
It takes two
Try to discuss your attitudes with your partner as soon as possible. Whatever your opinions, you’ll be starting on the right foot if you can approach parenting as a team, and recognise your partner’s values and beliefs as well as your own. Remember, too, that even if you’re set on a particular parenting style, things may change when you’re faced with real-life situations.
What kind of parent will you be? Only time will tell.